If You Feel Like Giving Up…You Are NOT Alone!
Lost your mojo and feel like giving up?
Feeling frustrated, disappointed, and flat.
You keep reading about people who have made and it only adds salt to the wound.
Now the voices of the naysayers have grown even louder in your head……
I know how you feel 🙂 So many times I have felt like giving up on myself, my dreams and my goals….all I know is that you must NEVER GIVE UP.
In today’s post, I share 7 tips from author and business psychologist and leadership coach Jasbindar Singh on helping you to stay motivated and gain the momentum that you need to stay on track right now so you can get your mojo back so you will NEVER WANT TO EVER GIVE UP AGAIN!
1. Keep the Dream Alive
- Keep your vision of what’s possible very close to you and remind yourself every day why you started
- Display an image, picture, person, symbol, or phrase that anchors you back to this.
- Make a habit of revisiting your “big why.” (the big picture and rationale that drove you to pursue your dream in the first place)?
- Keep fueling your dream through your intentions and actions every day.
- Each morning, when you wake up, ask yourself, “What are the three things I am going to do today to get me closer to my dream?”
- Share it with trusted others who are also passionate about their dreams and are on a similar journey.
2. Develop Persistence and Grit
- To achieve your goals, you need to be focused, put in the work, keep learning and refine the actions we take.
- You can develop persistence and grit by:
- Seeing the path as a learning journey
- Focusing on and enjoying the process and not just the outcome
- Keeping a diary/journal on the project so when you look back you can see how far you have come already
- Having people with whom you can share your frustrations as well as your mini-successes
- Taking a short break and then returning to the project
- Stretching yourself, doing things just outside your comfort zone
3. Aim for Your Best Creation
- We do our best work when there is a confluence of our strengths, passion, interests, and values.
- Check that what you are doing is something that plays to your strengths and what you care about, as this will give you the most momentum and satisfaction.
- Sometimes in the pursuit of our end goal, we can forget, minimize, or override the pleasure of doing what is intrinsically enjoyable.
- Positive psychology principles such as savoring these moments and having a sense of gratitude help increase our levels of happiness and well-being.
- Stoke these fires and nourish and feed that which is truly meaningful for you.
- You could do this by revisiting your top three to five values and ensuring that your project is in alignment with these.
- The significance of doing work that in alignment with your core values is PRICELESS!
4. Get Feedback
- If you’re feeling stuck or experiencing slow momentum, it might be time to get external input and feedback.
- Reaching out to experts in the field, peers, coaches, or mentors can help provide the extra flush of new ideas that energize you again.
- It can also ensure that you’re doing the right things and not just doing things right.
- Sometimes all you need is some course-correction.
- It can be a good idea to frame the feedback by asking:
- “What is good about this project?”
- “What could I do better?”
- “What am I missing?”
- Framed this way, you are less likely to perceive the feedback as “negative” and more as useful information to course correct, adapt, or pivot!
5. Learning Framework
- Frame your current challenge as a learning experience and something that you haven’t mastered-YET!
- Notice what’s working and what isn’t and refine, adjust, or get outside help accordingly.
- See the progress you are making every day, week, or month as you learn from any mistakes.
- You can focus on these three things:
- What went well?
- What didn’t go so well and what can we learn from this?
- What next actions can I take to get better results?
6. Manage Your Expectations
- Anytime we take a big step in our lives, all the monster and gremlin voices from our family and cultural conditioning which have plagued us in the past, will come flooding back!
- Get to know what your “trip-up monster voice” is likely to say so when you do hear it, you won’t be taken by surprise.
- Instead, you can identify this for what it is and then carry on.
- Don’t try to bury the voices, because that can make them stronger.
- Instead, acknowledge it, then move on.
- Say, “Okay, noted. I’m going to do this anyway!”
7. Have Fun and Take Time Out
- There’s not much point to doing anything especially pursuing your dreams and vision if it isn’t fun!
- Taking a break from your project, doing something completely different, even mindless, can leave you feeling refreshed and recharged with the extra bonus of added insights!
- How can you find ways to make your project more fun?
So if you see slow or poor results, do not despair……
See it as useful information indicating where you need to adjust, course-correct, or pivot.
We have seen time and time again that achieving anything worthwhile takes persistence, effort, and time.
RESULTS TAKE TIME!
Have faith and believe in yourself….YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS!! 🙂
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To Your Success,