The Step By Step Method To Become Anything You Want To Be

How to Get Everything You Want in Life and Become Anything You Want To Be




Can you REALLY become anything you want to be?


Is it really something you can accomplish?


Can anyone really get everything they want from life?


What does that even mean?


When you compare most people you’ll find that everyone has very different goals and very different aims. Some of us are trying to change the world, others are just want to settle down and be healthy and happy with a loving family. But for a huge number of goals, you’ll find that the same kinds of principles apply time and time again.


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There’s a step by step ‘formula’ you can apply to any aspect of your life in order to achieve the things you want to achieve and to be a success – and I’m going to share that formula with you in this post.





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#1 – The MOST Important FIRST Step In Getting What You Want Is Knowing What You Want

  • This is something that all too often gets overlooked and all too often it’s assumed that we already have this.
  • What if you don’t know what you want from life?
  • What if you have lots of different interests that are all pulling you in different directions?
  • What you need to do then is to prioritize and you need to look for the things you can get from life that will make you happiest
  • Let’s look at some of the ways you can do that…
  • Look for the Common Themes
  • Very often, what this comes down to is identifying the commonalities in your dreams and objectives.
  • In other words, if you want to be twenty things, then what do those twenty things have in common?
  • The Five Whys
  • Another way to get to the bottom of what it is you really want and to discover why you want it is to use the ‘five whys’ technique.
  • Here, you ask yourself the question ‘why’ five times in a row in order to dig deeper and deeper into your motivations.
  • Look to Your Role Models
  • Another way to find out what it is you really want is to look at your role models and to see what it is about them that you admire.
  • What parts of their lives would you like to emulate?
  • Again: what do they have in common?

So don’t just think about what you think will make you happy….imagine the day-to-day result of achieving your goals and whether that makes you happy too.  

There’s a lot that makes up a happy and healthy individual…..for example:

  • Physiological & Safety Needs (like food, sex, safety, shelter)
  • Love/belonging & Self Esteem(like love, belong and self-confidence)
  • Self-Actualization (which relates to your accomplishments and your ability to feel as though you’re contributing something, creating something, doing something that matters.

You can’t change all these things at once so you will need to prioritize what you want out of life and you need to focus on one aspect of your lifestyle at a time 🙂

Here’s what you need to do right now…….Sit down with a piece of paper and a pen and hash out what you want from life, what makes you happy and what you can realistically change relatively easy about your current situation. Once you have that thing: ACT!!


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#2 – Stop Waiting – Take Action Now

  • Now you have to actually start making things happen for yourself and that means taking small, positive steps toward achieving your new goals.
  • This is where most people go wrong.
  • Not because they go about achieving their goals in the wrong way (though this happens) but because they don’t go about it at all.
  • The big problem for many of us is that we’re seemingly ‘waiting’ for something to happen.
  • We’re happy to just go along with our current lifestyles which are ‘good enough’ rather than aim for something bigger and better.
  • Sometimes this comes down to fear.
  • Sometimes this comes down to thinking they have no other option.
  • Sometimes it comes down to believing that waiting is legitimately the best strategy for getting what they want.


#3 – Consider the Law of Attraction

  • This states that like attracts like and that if you act in a certain way, your life will change to match.
  • Act confident, dress well, look great and people start taking you more seriously.
  • Thus you start to get given more responsibility and your career improves.
  • Try a Technique Called Kaizen.
  • Essentially, kaizen means making lots of small changes in order to add up to big differences in your life. Kind of like the way you bring down a great oak with lots of small chops, or how you can walk a hundred miles by taking lots of small steps. In this scenario though, we’re talking about making lots of small tweaks to your lifestyle and your current situation in order to achieve massive things across the board.  It’s also a great exercise in self-discipline and if you can do this one thing then you’ll find it’s much easier to stick to your other goals.



Don’t be Afraid to be Different…….Too often we feel like we need to live a certain lifestyle in order to live up to what’s expected of us or to be ‘normal’. Just remember it is OKAY to be just the way you are……unique 🙂 


#4- Try Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

  • This is essentially a framework that you can use to try and improve the way you think and to thereby improve a number of beliefs and behaviors.
  • This uses a combination of practicing, testing and assessing your own thoughts in order to attempt ‘cognitive restructuring’.
  • CBT also teaches mindfulness, which has a number of different applications.
  • One particularly interesting use for mindfulness though is to help increase your own sense of gratitude for what you already have.
  • This is very important – if you aren’t able to appreciate the things you have already and what you have already achieved, then you’ll find that nothing you accomplish brings you any closer to being happy and fulfilled.
  • So make sure you spend the time to think about the things you’re grateful for in life and the things that you’ve already done well.
  • Some people find small exercises like listing three things they’re really thankful for each morning can really help. (I write in my 5 minute journal daily)
  • Always remember that wherever you are right now in life – there are probably people who would love to be in your shoes.
  • While there are many different aspects to CBT, there is a basic process that most people can follow to start achieving more things and feeling more satisfied with their accomplishments:
  • Step 1: Mindfulness
  • The process starts by being mindful of your current thoughts and reflecting on what you currently think on a regular basis.
  • Which thoughts are destructive and potentially holding you back?
  • What can you do about that?
  • Mindfulness can be used as a form of meditation, while you can also use journaling which simply means writing down the thoughts as they come to you or at the end of the day.
  • Step 2: Thought Challenging
  • This is the process of challenging your beliefs and thoughts – just like we did with the fear setting process. Does your limiting belief really have any merit?
  • Step 3: Hypothesis Testing
  • Simply test your hypothesis.
  • Think you can’t speak in front of that crowd?
  • Think that you’ll get laughed at if you ask that woman/man out?
  • Then try it!
  • What you’ll find is that the reality is never as bad as you were worried it might be!
  • Step 4: Affirmations
  • Believe it or not, affirmations and mantras can work when they’re well chosen.
  • Repeat phrases that undermine the negative ruminations in your mind and eventually they can completely replace those beliefs.


keepmovingforward#5- Keep Moving Forward!

  • The key is to stop looking at things as so black and white and to look for alternative ways to achieve what you really want.
  • That means identifying what it is you really want out of life and it means coming up with a great strategy to help you get there.
  • It also means that you stop waiting until you retire or you win the lottery and you look at making as many changes as you can right now to get to where you want to be.
  • You won’t get everything you want from life right away of course.
  • But if you keep working at it you’ll be highly surprised by what you can accomplish. And what’s more, is that you’ll have the rewarding feeling of working towards something.
  • This is often what most of us want most of all – a feeling of forward progression.
  • As long as you’re working toward being a rock star, being the best health of your life, being the perfect family man/woman… then it’s not just a dream.
  • Having a plan and having a trajectory makes life that much better so it’s time to start making progress.



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Don’t stagnate, keep moving forward!







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To Your Success,
Joan Harrington



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30 thoughts on “The Step By Step Method To Become Anything You Want To Be

  1. Gosh Joan, I love this! It kinda goes along with my post today about the “grass being greener”. It’s not and we should be happy with what we have. If we aren’t, these are fabulous steps to achieve what we want in life.

    Passing this along because it’s just that great! Happy Friday!


    • Why thank you Bren 😉 Yes it does lol Great minds think alike right? So glad you enjoyed the post girl!! Appreciate your wonderful comment! Have an awesome weekend 🙂

  2. Keep moving forward is a very important one. So many times Ive wanted to give up blogging but something kept me going and now its growing into something I am truly enjoying!

    • Hey Shann!
      Thank you! Our mindset and thinking as so much to do with attracting what we want in our lives 🙂 Yes, figuring it out is the hard part for sure!

  3. Crystal says:

    I can let myself get talked out of doing things. I appreciate motivation and the reminder that I’ve got this.

  4. Bernadette Callahan says:

    There are still a ton of things I want to accomplish and do. I dont know that I will get all of them done but would like to at least give it a shot. I think it is important to do what you like.

  5. Hi Joan

    I love the tips that you listed. They are sure ways to be anything you want . I love the tip of taking action and that is because this is the hardness part of achieving a dream. Most people can talk about their dreams but not take action. Thank you for sharing this awesome resource. Take Care

  6. brianna george says:

    Goals are certainly important. I know I can do all things through Christ. I know I am able and strong. He enables that. 🙂 Even in blogging:)

  7. Hi Joan,
    Tons of value in this article.
    I wrote it out just for me , but this is how I wrote it.

    Yes the first step is knowing what you want.
    Five whys techinique?
    Ask your self why 5 times
    Role models things you would like to emulate
    Write down what you want What makes me happy
    What can I change?
    Second step
    Do it today
    Take steps to achieving new goals
    DO IT!!
    Like attracts like -act in a certain way and life jus changes
    Act confident, dress well, look great – people take you seriously
    As you start you are fiven more responsibility – career improves
    Kaizen thecnique – small tweaks to your lifestyle and current situation
    adding up to massive achievements
    Framework to improve the way you think.
    Cognitive Behavior Therapy
    Improve your sense of gratitude
    Three things you are grateful for each morning
    Though Challenging
    -Limiting beliefs have any merit
    Hypothesis Testing
    – think you can speak in front of a crowd? Try it – I did it!
    – repeat phrases that undermine negative ruminations
    and replace them with beliefs
    Keep Moving Forward
    – Look for alternatives to achieve what you want
    Identify what it is that you really want Come up with
    a strategy to get you there
    Having a plan and having a trajectory makes life that much better so it’s time to start making progress.
    Wonderful article my friend! I will keep it always!

  8. Sometimes it is really hard to figure out what we really what to do or be. The great thing is that we can change our minds. It is totally ok to change our minds because everything we do shapes and changes us. Thanks for all your tips. I’m still figuring out what I want. 🙂

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